It is work but it's worth it!

You want to know what ticks me off? It's people who think it really is greener on the other side of the fence. It is not greener, it is just different. I realize that relationships are hard. You have to work at them. They don't come easy just because you love each other. I love my hubby but there was a time when I wasn't happy. (I didn't know you were suppose to leave when you weren't happy!) We had to work hard together to make things work for us. We had to actually "gasp" spend time together. Compromise is the key. You might not like to do something, but sometimes you have to do it to keep the harmony.

I had a family right out of high school. I am not complaining but I never knew what it was like to do something just for myself. I 'did' for my kids and my family. When I finally got a taste of what life would have been like without responsibilities, oh boy was I in trouble. I ran a little wild. I had returned to college and my grades reflected the "fun" I was having. Guys other than my husband were finding me attractive and flirting with me. What a head rush! But I realized (thank the good lord) that this was NOT really reality. I had a perfectly good guy at home. And I found if I flirted with him, he would flirt back. Hey! This is kinda cool. We began to do more things together, just the two of us. What fun.

Your family is everything to you. But reality is eventually (with luck) you kids will grow-up and move out of your house on their own. Once your nest is empty, what do you do? You are suddenly with someone day in, day out without the buffers of children. If you do not know how to interact with each other, you are in real trouble. You will look up one day and realize you do not know this stranger that you have spent the last 18+ years with. It doesn't happen overnight. It is as much of a learned experience as it was for you to learn anything else. It should happen over years. So by the time it is just the two of you, you are comfortable with each other and ready, even eager, to begin a new adventure.

Remember, a relationship takes work but it is worth it in the end. It is NOT greener somewhere else, just different.

Long time

DD petting pot belly pig


Wow it has been a while since I updated. Not that I don't have tons to say (because believe me I do). It is just when I have the time, I don't have the energy. All I want to do is be lazy on the couch. And my house reflects this also, as it really needs cleaning. I can think of loads of wonderful and witty things to say when I am away from the computer, but as soon as I begin typing, it is gone.

Life has been hectic as usual. Work is never ending. Before we get transferred over to the new system, I may have mental breakdown. How much knowledge is a person suppose to be able to hold in their head? I mean, I have been in training for weeks on end learning this stuff and I still have so much more to go. We have been working on this since July 2007 and it will not be completely live until August 2009 (if that gives you and idea how immense this is). Plus my manager has announced her retirement effective Sept.1. That means I will have more to do as I pick up the slack for her systems.

On a lighter side, my dear hubby has finally found a job. For awhile there is was getting rough. We were about to start putting things up for sale to make ends meet. But hopefully we will now start getting back where we should be. Darling daughter(DD) has never heard the word "no" when it comes to getting things she wants (I know she is spoiled rotten - what can I say, she is our last baby) and she has heard no more times than not in the last 6 months. But hubby loves his new job and has big plans to recreate his savings account so we don't get in bad shape ever again!

Speaking of DD, she recently competed in a 4-H shooting sports event and got 2nd in air pistols. Not bad. She just starting shooting a .22 pistol, so she is not as good there but getting better everyday. These past 2 weeks, she has been at band camp getting ready for the upcoming marching season. I cannot wait. I really enjoy going to these competitions. I didn't think I would but they are kinda addicting. I can't believe she is a sophomore this year. Time really flies.

Family is good. Oh, I forgot! My youngest son is now engaged. Not a real big surprise but pleasant news just the same. Unpleasant news is he will probably be moving to Texas within the next year. I guess I can look on the bright side, I will finally get to visit the great state of Texas. :-)

Baby L(granddaughter) is growing like a weed. I don't get to see her near as much as I would like so I try to make every minute with her count. My oldest son and our schedule just doesn't mesh well. When we are free, they are busy and visa versa. Oh well. At least they are close. There was a time we were afraid they would be moving 5 hours away. I think I may have lost my mind if that had happened.

I could continue you on but you guys probably don't want to read any more. I will try to post a scrap page I am working on sometime this weekend.

for someone that couldn't think of anything to say, I sure said alot

Who's calling who a slacker?

Guess what? I have been called a slacker by my very "lazy" son. Can you imagine? This from the fellow that will walk a mile to avoid work. :-) Just because he updated his blog (3 posts in two days), he thinks I should also. What gives?

Ok fine, he wants me to post about the wonderful time I had the other day. My beautiful daughter-in-law and son wanted hubby and me to go with them geocaching. For those that do not know what geocaching is go here. I will wait till you get back.

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Oh there you are. Thats alot of information to take in. But aren't you so much smarter now. :-)

Any who, we went on a hideous wonderful hike from hell with my devious wonderful children. We spent about two hours trekking through the forest with me packing a wiggly 20 pound baby that wanted to "walk by herself". My husband was sure they were trying to just kill us and find a place to hide the bodies. They didn't expect us to bring witnesses in the form of our daughter and her boyfriend. But did this deter them? Nooooooooooo, they were just trying to find a way to get rid of them too. I think the intended way to kill us was for us to be sucked dried by all the vampire mosquitoes and ticks we encountered. That way, they could claim innocence. Can you not imagine all the great fun we had?

Next time my kids decide to take me to the woods to kill me and hide my body go for a walk in the woods, I think I will decline and just volunteer to watch the wiggly sack of potatoes. At least there are no mosquitoes in my house.......yet. :-)

p.s. you guys know I still love you even when you are trying to kill torture involve me in your lives and fun. Hey want to go for a "boat" ride? lol